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#Girlsgist BEFORE WALKING DOWN THE AISLE. By Mrs. Raquel Daniel I believe it’s an honest desire for single ladies to want someone they also can call a “Husband.” I don’t mean ‘Desperation’ now; ‘Desire’ is the word. Having the desire to marry is a very good thing: “For God, Himself saw that it is not good for a man to be alone,” (Gen 2:18, Prov 18:22). Meaning; as a lady, someone would need you for a helper, which is good. Marrying early is also beautiful; I admire many young couples. There’s just something practical to learn, watching them showcase real virtues even in their homes; Beautiful! But ladies, do not let “age” put you under pressure. That all your friends got married below 25 doesn’t mean being single is a curse. God is a good God; He would not withhold anything good from you (Psalm 84:11). First, let us establish that getting troubled about your single stage, because you do not have a man, is out of tune with God’s idea. That is an underlying issue you should wor...

#Girlsgist BEFORE WALKING DOWN THE AISLE. By Mrs. Jennifer Edusei First of all to the young ladies that do not see there single season as a blessing, please let go of the idea that being single means “there’s something wrong with you! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you! that’s low self esteem, low self worth & low self love. Your singleness is a blessing! Being single is the TRAINING CAMP for that. You get to INVEST in YOU, build and deepen your relationship with God, find and pursue your passion and become the best version of yourself. I found my purpose when I was single. I got to spend time with God and it deepened my relationship with Him. No emotional, physical or spiritual drama to distract me. I knew that if i leave everything in God’s hands, He will write a beautiful love story for me, which He did BELIEVING IN GOD'S PROMISES Some people are legit single by choice and waiting on The Lord! After all, you can decide to choose from a lot trying t...

#Girlsgist BEFORE WALKING DOWN THE AISLE. By Mrs. Funto Ibuoye There's so much blessing in your single season! I look back at my single season and I'm so glad I maximized my single season and was not preoccupied about marriage and what the next phase would be. Your single season has several phases in it, more like a progression moving from one stage to another. So, Its all about having the right perspective, understanding that you only have this season once in a lifetime and what you do with it would greatly determine what would be obtainable in your next phase. The Word says, "To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven". (Ecclesiastes 3:1) Life is in phases and seasons. God in his wisdom has made it so and he operates by process. This simply means that God has a purpose for your single season. He has alot of things He needs you to accomplish even while single ie friendships/relationships to be made, assignments to be fulfille...

#Girlsgist By Mary Balogun Dear Sisters! One for me, relationship is a ministry! If you can't see yourself on the path of a guy's life, you do not belong there! If you can't find a place to fit-in in his VISION, he is someone else's bone. Don't just jump into a relationship with a guy because you love him only. Love is not enough! We all can love anyone. Here is it; Look beyond the feelings and emotions, of course they aren't bad in themselves, as a matter of fact, if you do not love a guy, you might need to reconsider your decision before diving into a relationship with him. Love is as important as the relationship itself. But Sis, focus more on how you two can fulfil purpose together in your own capacity. If you can't find something to help him with in the course of his destiny, you might be in a wrong destination. There must be an assignment you're coming into his Iife to help him with. Relationship is not just about the lovey dovey thin...

LOOK INTO THE ONLY MIRROR THAT REALLY MATTERS : GOD'S TRUTH.  By SHARON JAYNES What do you see when you look in the mirror? Someone who’s not enough, or someone who is more than enough because of the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross and His Spirit in you? I was in the sixth grade when I first ventured into the House of Mirrors at my hometown county fair—a mere 12 years old. My friends and I ran from booth to booth, suckered into paying good money to play rigged games. For hours we gave cash to shady carnival characters in hopes of winning a stuffed purple polka-dotted snake, an oversized tie-dyed teddy bear, or a cheesy piece of jewelry we’d never wear. Personally, I stuck with Pickup Ducks—a sure win. But of all the sideshows at the carnival, it was the House of Mirrors that captured my attention. We walked through maze-like halls, giggling at the distorted images of ourselves. Short and stubby. Tall and lanky. I looked at the various versions of me and tri...

#Girlsgist A WISE WOMAN BUILDS HER HOUSE Proverbs 14:1a "Every wise woman buildeth her house..." I visited the Open Heavens Center at the Redemption Camp around March this year during the special Holy Ghost Congress with two of my mummies in church. It was my first time there and I have heard a lot of testimonies from that center. I had my own expectations too. In fact, I needed a word before i leave that place. So, we got into the place and we were taken around. Then, we got to the place were we are to enter into the former Mummy G.Os room. We did, prayed and tapped a lot of blessings if you know what I mean. I was still expecting my take home word from God sincerely. I thought I will even get it when I got into Mummies room while praying but no I didn't but guess what? I did! Just at her door post. I didn't see the verse while entering until i came out and it was Proverbs 14:1a, just at her door post. I had this strong push to check out that ver...

#Girlsgist Hello Sisters! How is the quarantine season treating us or how are we making good use of it? So today I would love us to read about this woman called Jochebed! Moses Mother Read about her in Exodus 1 She is a; Life giver. Risk taker. Faith filled woman. Obedient to Gods leading. An audacious woman. Jochebed risked everything to save her sons life, hiding him for three good months and putting him in a basket to the waters of the Nile. Like who does that? In a basket! A basket we all know as women can never float on water but she never imagined that at all. Regardless of anything God expects us to absolutely adhere to his leading in obedience. He wants us to first put His plans before considering any other plans. Imagine, if Jochebed wasn't sensitive to who Moses was to become spiritually. Who would have led the children of Israel? Now the question is! If God has/will entrust souls into your hands as a Mother, will you be able to be all of t...

#Girlsgist TO BUILD AND HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP; YOU ALSO NEED TO BE SUBMISSIVE IN COURTSHIP. I know the bible only made reference to WIVES only in, Ephesians 5:22, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord". But as ladies in courtship or preparing to go into courtship someday, this is also referring to us. Submission is the charm that can activate love in any relationship, even in marriage. It is the act of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. In other words, it is you being under the authority of your partner who is the superior by God and Man's standard. I have heard and seen a lot of ladies who do say that they can never be submissive to their partner because they aren't married yet, that the partner will make a fool out of them when they become submissive. So until they are married they will be. See ehnnnn! If he is not your husband yet and you cannot submit to hi...

#Girlsgist I HOPE YOU ARE RELYING ON GOD ONLY FOR A LIFE PARTNER? Not even by your own feelings should you choose or by anyone's leading, be it your pastor, mentor, friend etc. I know most pastors or mentors can get the revelation for you but it is still very important to hear God for yourself. If God can reveal that to anyone then he can for you. So God expects us to seek and wait for his choice through his leadings and not who we feel is best for us or who anyone feels is best for us. As a lady in waiting, when you are relying on God completely for a life partner, you are securing a solid and godly foundation for your marriage in the future. Not only that though, there are a lot of benefits. I'm sure you know you deserve a loving and God fearing partner that will make marriage fulfilling, that will make raising of the kids in a godly way easy and many more beautiful feelings in marriage. Well, this is why God expects us to wait for his choice by His leading. Se...

#Girlsgist COHABITING! A lot of we ladies have gotten it wrong on this and been lied to all in the name of marriage. Before making lifelong commitment before God and man in marriage, please avoid the temptation of cohabiting. Cohabiting is Living together before marriage in a simple definition. It is very wrong for Christians and as a daughter of God to live together with a man or husband to be before marriage. God frowns at this act and expects us to flee from any form of it. He said, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body”. 1 Corinthians 6:18 Cohabiting births the sin against our own body (sex) so God pleads with us to flee from it. I have heard a lot of ladies say nothing will happen, we are matured enough to control ourselves but for how long? Imagine sharing a space with a man, cooking, washing his cloths and performing any wifey role and you said nothing will ...

 #Girlsgist I will be talking about the 'HOW' that is, in what manner or way we can Value our Preparatory Season. 5. ENJOY YOUR LIFE GIRL! Yeah! This is the last of all my points and it is very necessary and healthy for every girl in her waiting season. I know you may want to know why I brought this to the last point, well this is because a lot of young ladies that are waiting have turned their lives into something else, something that looks miserable or to be pitied on. To the fact that, it now shows in their looks, relationship (even with God), habits and many more areas. Well, This is another area we need to be intentional and practical about as girls in their preparatory seasons. Sister! Please ENJOY your life... Few days back, I was talking to some young persons. I told them that this is the time for me to enjoy my life especially now that I am free or owe no husband any explanation before I travel to where ever I want to or any children to consider an...

#Girlsgist I will be talking about the 'HOW' that is, in what manner or way we can Value our Preparatory Season. 4. DEVELOP YOUR SELF QUALITIES This is another area we need to be intentional and practical about as girls in their preparatory seasons. Now, the gist in this aspect is in our personality. Our self qualities are the things that makes us who we are, in other words they are our personality. See ehn! Most of us, our personality is zero. We absolutely have nothing to write about ourselves then what do we expect others to write? Our personality sets us apart in a good way but if yours does not then you have to develop it now that you are still a single girl because you can not take such life to keep some bodies son miserable. Lol! Now let's get serious with this personality thing. We all know ourselves and of course God knows us better. So if for any reason you are praying to get married to a guy with all the sweet qualities and you are not a...

#Girlsgist I will be talking about the 'HOW' that is, in what manner or way we can Value our Preparatory Season. 3. GET TO FIND PURPOSE This is another area we need to be intentional and practical about as girls in their preparatory seasons. And this can be done first by asking God to reveal to us what he has called us to do for Him or for the society. Fulfilling purpose is key. Fulfilling purpose is having inner peace. Fulfilling purpose gives Joy and Happiness. Fulfilling purpose is one reason why we are created by God. So you see why we must must all get to find purpose? Everyone of us is born with a unique purpose; either in ministry or career areas etc. So identifying our unique purpose while waiting is so needful. Purpose is so easy to find but a lot of us see it to be one hard work thing and we relent and prefer living an ordinary life, whereas God wants us to do more for Him and to impact lives in our society. See ehn! Purpose is simply our pas...

#Girlsgist I will be talking about the 'HOW' that is, in what manner or way we can Value our Preparatory Season. 2. DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE : TO LOVE YOURSELF This is another area we need to be intentional and practical about as girls in their preparatory seasons. Self discovery and self love goes along way in our lives, because most of us are yet to know who we are and we do not love ourselves. Let me tell you about a scripture I love so much; until I came to the understanding of Psalms 139:14-16. I began to have a different perspectives of my Creation and started to love myself more because I found out something powerful about me which made me began to love myself passionately. KJV verse 14; " I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well". I carefully picked up two powerful words here, "FEARFULLY" and "WONDERFULLY" and since then I have had this so muc...

#Girlsgist So I will be talking about the 'HOW' that is, in what manner or way can we Value our Preparatory Season. 1. GET TO KNOW GOD This is one important way during this season in our lives, because without the knowledge of who God is we may all be like Martha who was always busy and active, throwing herself totally into serving that she never realised that something still more important needed her attention. (This is most of us now, we are so busy and active to other things that we neglect God is saying) Than being like Mary who was more interested in what Jesus had to say and made it her practice to sit at His feet so she could hear every word He spoke in her presence, which was a display of a deep and sincere action of love to Jesus. (Luke 10:38-42) Mary was so intentional and practical about knowing what God have to say through His son and it was for a good course. Girls! Be intentional and practical about knowing God, it makes the difference. Talking...

#Girlsgist The parable of the Ten Virgins is one amazing story that shows us the importance of Valuing our preparatory season. (Matthew 25:1-8) I'm very sure we all know or might have heard about this story, where the bible described five to be wise (prepared) and five to be foolish (unprepared). The five wise virgins understood what it means to be prepared, so they waited for  the bridegroom with there filled lamps and with their extra oil. Where as, the other five felt that the oil in there lamps would be enough to keep them till the bridegroom comes. See ehn! The five wise virgins understood that the oil in their lamps will not serve them, maybe they might have also imagined that the groom may not come that day, so they needed to prepare for tomorrow too, so they prepared. A lot of us are waiting for our bridegroom unprepared. Without enough Oil (The revelation of Gods word) in our lives to keep us safe while waiting. This is how it is also in waiting for our B...

#Girlsgist I saw this beautiful bride on Instagram and I was so captivated by her look, bouquet, hair band and of course the wedding gown. Aren't they just amazingly beautiful? I'm very sure whosoever did her makeup, dressed her up, made the wedding gown or even made her bouquet all went through a process to make her shine differently as the bride. Especially, for the wedding gown, the beaded part melted my heart, so well arranged and clean. It may have taken them months to plan this and to make the brides day extraordinary. What am I even saying? Sisters! Do you know all of these look, dress, etc does not define a beautiful godly woman? Its so unfortunate that most of us as ladies, are so eager and can't wait to look so extraordinary beautiful on our big day which happens to be just a day like this and I'm very sure most of us have been planning on this for about three or more years. In fact, we have in mind the kind of gown, hair, shoes etc to put on or...

#Girlsgist There is a power that works and should work in us as Christians and daughters of God. This power does not come with coldness, fear, depression, inferiority complex or shame. Its the same power that worked things out for most women in the bible such as; Queen Esther, Miriam, Ruth, Abigail and many more beautiful women, that made them outstanding, talked and read about in our world today. Its the same Power that broke protocols for them and made most of them leaders, desirable and admirable women. It is the Power called BOLDNESS! This is one quality of a virtuous woman and this is one good virtue God wants us to possess. • BOLDNESS is been very confident to situations that seems hopeless. • BOLDNESS is not easily freaking out from problems but facing them. • BOLDNESS is waiting patiently for God's will even when it looks like God is not moving. • BOLDNESS is standing out in the place of prayers for yourself and others. • BOLDNESS is coming out of that horr...

THE WOMAN CALLED SARAH. _______________________________________ The story of The Woman Called Sarah is a story that proves to us that Gods still loves us and His promises over our lives still remains valid no matter how much mistakes we've made in life. Its a story that reveals a lot but here is one thing I discovered. In Genesis chapter 16, it shows the conversation between Sarah and Abram her husband, where Sarah pleaded with Abram to lay with her maid Hagar and Abram consented to it. Sarah's decision was based on the fact that she had already given up and felt God didn't answer her or blessed her with a child. So out of pain she made that harsh decision. In chapter 17 reads to us about God's promise to Sarah. 17:16a, "And I will bless her, and give thee a son also of her..." 17:19, ''And God said, Sarah thy wife shall bear thee a son indeed; and thou shalt call his name Isaac: and I will establish my covenant with him for an everlas...